The new school year kicks off an exciting time with new clubs, activities, and opportunities for your kids. They have likely come home with packets for team sports sign-ups and announcements for various other school groups that they can join. As a parent, getting your child into sports can be a great way for them to have a safe place after school, but it can also be a burden on your time and energy. Furthermore, how do you know whether a sport is right for your child – or even if they’re ready to play it?
Let’s look at the optimal age for kids to play sports and why you shouldn’t introduce them to team activities too young.
What is the Best Age for Kids to Play Sports?
Whether you hope your child shares your passion for basketball or just want to check out some community teams, many parents are eager to get their kids playing sports at a young age. However, pushing your child when they are too young can be frustrating for you and your child alike.
Most kids don’t have the coordination to play sports until they are at least four or five, and they also aren’t able to fully understand the rules of the game until they reach the ages of six to eight. Remember, every child develops differently. If your child isn’t kicking a ball like a soccer star by their fourth birthday, it doesn’t mean that they won’t grow up to become athletes.
With these age guidelines in mind, many parents will play with younger kids to teach them the basic skills of the game before they join a team. For example, a four or five-year-old can learn to swing a plastic bat to hit a Wiffle ball. They can learn to catch a ball that is thrown directly to them or to shoot a basketball into a kid-level hoop.
By the time your child is six or seven, they can start to join recreational leagues where everyone gets a chance to play and the focus is on fun and fundamentals rather than winning.
When it comes to competitive sports, the age suggestion for kids is even higher. Experts suggest starting kids in competitive team sports after the age of eight. In the years before that, your child can’t handle the pressure of winning and losing. The measurement of their performance against other kids – and potential cuts from the team because of it – could be emotionally scarring. This is also true if you are a parent who is carefully involved in your child’s athletic life. Your child might put too much pressure on themselves to perform because they equate winning with love.
That being said, some children might need to wait until they turn 10 to handle the emotional maturity of committing to a sport and playing it in a competitive setting.
What Are Some Alternatives to Competitive Sports?
Not every child needs to be on a competitive team – or even in a high-stress sports environment. If you want your child to continue playing sports for the love of the game, consider a few of these alternatives to school teams and other competitive environments:
- Solo athletics – this includes sports like tennis, karate, swimming, dancing and running.
- Recreational teams and intramural athletics – these teams are often run out of the parks department or offered by the school as an alternative to playing on the competitive team. Everyone is welcome at all skill levels.
- After-school organizations – groups like the YMCA and Family Resources offer sports for kids who want to play for fun. The games change frequently and the focus is on getting kids moving and learning the sport.
- Church groups and social teams – your local community group might organize a team for kids to play during the week. This is a fun way for kids at different schools to interact.
- Neighborhood teams – kids in your area can meet up for casual games, whether they are throwing a football around or forming teams to play a few basketball games.
From a parent’s perspective, these athletic alternatives can be more affordable than competitive team sports – where the family often has to cover the equipment costs and pay other fees. They also require less of a time commitment so kids can focus on school or help with the family when they need to.
What Should You Consider When Starting a Sport?
Your child’s interest is one of the most important factors to consider when they start a sport. Make sure they are excited to learn the game and to play. If they tried the sport last year and lack the same excitement, then it may be time to find another league or sport for them to play. This is especially important if you are spending money on equipment or team fees. If your child doesn’t want to be there, they won’t play their hardest and will often give up mid-game.
There are also internal family matters to consider when signing your child up for sports. The team at KidsHealth brought up some questions to consider when your child is considering a sport. These are important to ask if you only have one child or if you have multiple across different age groups:
- How will the time commitment affect other activities like homework, time with family, church activities, and free time with friends?
- How will the sport affect other members of the family and their activities?
- How will your child get to-and-from practice and games?
- How involved will you need to be – and how involved do you want to be in the game?
As you can see, when deciding if your child is ready to play sports, considering the impact on your entire family should be a part of the decision-making process.
Knowing at what age kids should begin playing sports, coupled with your own knowledge of where your child is developmentally, will help you decide when your child is ready.